It was a frequent habit of mine – hiding behind a parent to avoid being seen.
I was comfortable there, covered by the familiar; afraid of being seen.
Maybe I was simply a shy girl.
Or maybe it was more, I was worried that they would see more than my face. That they would look deeper and find a little girl who didn’t know what she could offer the world.
It took a teacher, whose name I no longer remember, to change that. How? She saw me. She saw my potential. She looked beyond my “shy” personality and saw someone who had a voice and a story to share.
Because this person chose to see me, to truly see me and not the label that was given to me, I was able to step out and allow myself to be seen. It changed my whole demeanour. Rather than run and hide, I would walk out on to stages. Rather than whisper, I would project my voice to the back of the room. I discovered a confidence I didn’t know was living inside of me.
All because I was seen.
It sounds cliché, but it couldn’t be more real. If it wasn’t for that person who saw me, I don’t know who I would be today. I probably wouldn’t be writing this to you right now. I wouldn’t have the courage share it.
Vulnerability and the struggle to be seen
As women, many of us struggle to allow ourselves to be seen.
There’s a wave of reasons why this is so but I believe that society has a major role to play. In many ways, society disempowers women and allowing it is easier than fighting against it. I don’t know about you, but I find “being seen” intimidating. Vulnerability is scary. If I show someone who I truly am, what if they reject me? What if they don’t like what they see?
“Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.”
– Brené Brown
Despite the fear of rejection, there is something beautiful about being seen. No longer protected by a façade, pretending to be someone else or conforming to another’s idea of who we should be. We get to show up as our authentic self.
We see a rejection of our authentic self presented in various ways. It’s more than the labels that people thrust upon us. We also see it in the limited range of goods made available to us in the market – “average”, “petite”, “plus size” – and if we don’t fit into the categories given to us, where do we fit?
Everyone deserves to be seen, to be represented in some meaningful way.
The impact of being seen
To be seen is more than just a boost to the ego. Being seen is different to being noticed. It’s so much more. It’s about empowerment, promoting a greater sense of self-worth.
As you read in my story, there is power in having someone see you not for who they want you to be, but for who you are.
Being seen – truly seen – can influence how people see themselves. It contributes to better self-confidence to rise up and speak up in their own right. And when we each rise up to be who we are called to be, we shape and shift the society we live in.
The impact of being seen isn’t just evident today but has a compounding effect over time that transcends the individual. It’s a ripple effect that passes from one empowered person to another.
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“Intimacy is being seen and known as the person you truly are.”
– Amy Bloom
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Now, it’s time to be bold and allow yourself to be seen. Are you ready?
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